Yesterday morning, I quoted (several times) from a new book I have been reading entitled Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb.
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The quotes I read yesterday:
“Tragically (Tamar’s) experience includes manipulation, force, violence, negation of her will, emotional trauma, debilitating loss of sense of self, display of grief and mourning, crushing shame, degradation, forced silence, and prolonged social isolation with desolation. Tamar’s social and personal boundaries are clearly violated. . . .
The effects of Tamar’s assault are disgrace, shame, and reproach. After the assault, Tamar is privately and publicly traumatized by shame. . . .
It is clear in several verses that Amnon’s actions of assault are violating, shameful, forceful, and humiliating. Violence permeates his words and actions. The words used to describe Amnon’s feelings and physical state express sick emotions rather than life-giving ones…Amnon reduces Tamar to the state of a ‘disposable object.’ After he assaults Tamar, Amnon commands her to leave by telling his servant, ‘Get this woman out of my sight.’ Other translations say, ‘Throw this woman out.’ Amnon barely speaks of her as a person. She is a thing Amnon wants to throw out. To him, Tamar is trash.”
“Tamar’s robe is a special symbol of her elevated social status; however, she tears her robe. The rending of clothes-often articulated biblically as ‘sackcloth and ashes’ – is an act of grievous affliction, revealing the sorrow of the heart, and is an expression of loss and lament. Tamar had her dignity torn from her, and the invasion is now expressed with physical gestures. The narrator describes Tamar as a person. But after this violation, her beauty is exchanged for feelings of shame and loss expressed through symbols of emotional distress. Tamar has become a person who has experienced loss of control over her body, over her life, and over her dignity.”
The effects of Tamar’s assault are disgrace, shame, and reproach. After the assault, Tamar is privately and publicly traumatized by shame. . . .
It is clear in several verses that Amnon’s actions of assault are violating, shameful, forceful, and humiliating. Violence permeates his words and actions. The words used to describe Amnon’s feelings and physical state express sick emotions rather than life-giving ones…Amnon reduces Tamar to the state of a ‘disposable object.’ After he assaults Tamar, Amnon commands her to leave by telling his servant, ‘Get this woman out of my sight.’ Other translations say, ‘Throw this woman out.’ Amnon barely speaks of her as a person. She is a thing Amnon wants to throw out. To him, Tamar is trash.”
“Tamar’s robe is a special symbol of her elevated social status; however, she tears her robe. The rending of clothes-often articulated biblically as ‘sackcloth and ashes’ – is an act of grievous affliction, revealing the sorrow of the heart, and is an expression of loss and lament. Tamar had her dignity torn from her, and the invasion is now expressed with physical gestures. The narrator describes Tamar as a person. But after this violation, her beauty is exchanged for feelings of shame and loss expressed through symbols of emotional distress. Tamar has become a person who has experienced loss of control over her body, over her life, and over her dignity.”
“Jesus Christ was killed, not for revenge but to bear her shame on the cross and to offer her a new robe of righteousness to replace her torn robes of disgrace. How Tamar felt after the assault, described in verse 19, is shockingly similar to what Jesus experienced leading up to and during His crucifixion. Jesus entered her pain and shame as Tamar’s substitute to remove the stain of sins committed against her, and he rose from the dead to bring her healing and hope.”
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