Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Posted by Bro. Matt at 7:47 PM
"First, decide beforehand that there will be no contest between the church's essential activities designed for your family's spiritual growth and what the team plans for your lives. If you will talk this over ahead of time with your child and then the coach, there will be no confusion. Through the years I've found that many coaches respect that decision. But, it must be a prior decision, not one made on a case by case basis. When sports conflicts with Sunday worship or youth camp or a special spiritual activity, the decision has already been made.
"The solution came to me after prayer. I asked him if he would be willing to learn golf in the place of basketball. We could play together, along with his brother, and we could do it whenever we wanted. We could enjoy this for the rest of our lives. I've paid some extra money, but I've bought back some time with my sons and some good exercise for me also. It's a bargain.
God Himself uses sports language in the New Testament. He's not against it, unless it steals the devotion belonging to Him. All other gods have to go!"
Posted by Bro. Matt at 7:36 PM
Posted by Bro. Matt at 7:25 PM
James Grant has a wonderful post here on a simple, easy, yet intentional plan to start family worship.
Read the entire post here.
1. Plan to have family worship after an evening meal
2. Read through a good book (like this one)
3. Say the Lord’s prayer after reading the book
After expounding on each of these, he closed his post by referencing some other places to get some help on this subject. He wrote:
"As you advance at this, you can add more to it. I noticed that Tim Challiespointed to a website with lots of resources. Joel Beeke has a short booklet on this topic, and Terry Johnson’s book on the subject is very good and comprehensive; he will direct you to other resources as well. But whether you are starting out or have been doing this for a while, don’t make it into a burden. You will defeat your purpose if you treat this as a strict discipline. Your kids need to enjoy this, and if you include them and keep it simple at first, they will help you build it into more."
Posted by Bro. Matt at 7:12 PM
Posted by Bro. Matt at 6:10 AM
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Posted by Bro. Matt at 3:11 PM
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
2. Leadership. Biblical manhood involves cultivating, embracing, and exercising leadership initiative, especially spiritual leadership initiative. This is a principle that applies to young men and adult single men just as well as to married men. Cultivate, embrace, and exercise spiritual leadership initiative. In marriage, my love for my wife involves and requires that I exert leadership in our relationship. My headship of my wife means I’m responsible for her spiritual growth and well-being. And as a father, I’m responsible in ways that my wife is not for the spiritual development of our children (Eph 6:1-4). And again, to do this, I must be seeking God and growing personally. Only out of the storehouse of my own soul’s growth in God can I assist my wife to grow spiritually.
3. Example. Lead by example as much as by admonition and instruction. Set the example in: consistent times in the Word and prayer; in sacrificial service for your wife, children, church family members, and community needs; in giving faithfully, generously, and regularly of your finances; in humble admission of wrong-doing along with confession, asking forgiveness, and repentance. Fight pride, fight defensiveness, fight carnality before others.
4. Authority. All three points above imply and invoke the concept of male-headship. Yes, God has given special authority to husbands and fathers. Learn, though, the correct expression of healthy, constructive, upbuilding, God-honoring, Christ-following authority. Resist and reject the sinful extremes of 1) harshness, bossiness, mean-spirited authoritarianism, and of 2) laziness, apathy, lethargy, negligence, and abdication of authority to the women in our lives.
6. Listening. One of my wife’s biggest and most real needs is my attentive and respectful listening ear. She loves to share her experiences, thoughts, ideas, feelings, concerns, hurts, joys, etc. I can minister to my wife more than one might think by offering her caring, responsive, and respectful listening and interaction. Learn to listen sympathetically w/o rushing to “fix it” solutions. Connect first heart to heart, then later heart to head. Establish regular times of mutual sharing (yes, mutual), keep short accounts, and act on what you hear and learn.
7. Understanding. I need to live with my wife in an understanding way (1 Pet 3:7), to learn her needs, her sensitivities. I should seek to know the desires and felt needs of my wife and, when appropriate and possible, fulfill these. I need to discover her “language of love” and make every effort to love her in ways she feels loved.
8. Work. A man’s main sense of identity, responsibility, and purpose is found in his work. Wives want to take pride in their husbands, and taking pride in their work is an important part of this. Women are not meant to bear the financial weight of a marriage or family, so husbands must work hard and responsibly. As important as work is to a man’s identity and fulfillment, we must not allow work to overshadow our commitment to and time with our wives first, and also to our children. Work hard, work well, work to the honor of Christ, and then put work to rest.
9. Sexuality. My wife is my only legitimate sexual experience, and I am hers. So, learning to love sexually with increasing skill and pleasure is vitally important to the satisfaction and intimacy of our marriage. See human sexuality for what it is — the good gift of God to be experienced in marriage, as God has designed.
10. Home. She cares much about our home. The “honey-do” list is far more important to her than she is likely to let on. In love for her, I must pay attention to her requests and treat them as important. But more important even than this is cultivating the “culture” and “ethos” of our home. Develop an atmosphere of appreciation, respect, kindness, service, holiness, happiness, gratefulness, contentment, forgiveness — all as expressions of our love for God and one another.
Posted by Bro. Matt at 2:45 PM
1. Be friendly. Tell them you will be praying before your meal, Ask if you can pray for them. If body language, tone of voice and time permits, ask if there is anything specific.
2. Pray for them.
3. Leave a good tip.
And that’s it. The Holy Spirit will do the rest. You’ll be amazed at how many actual opportunities to minister to people in Jesus’ name comes from this.
Posted by Bro. Matt at 2:30 PM
1. Don’t minimize the destruction of anger. You are getting shot at! Of course it hurts.
You are setting out to learn a disarming strategy that takes humility and love, and this is way over your head. As such, “Lord have mercy on me” is the order of the day.
2. Remember that angry people are blind to their own anger. They are the last to know that they are killing people. Instead, all they see is that they are right and others are wrong. Assume that they are spiritual lunatics.
4. Move toward the angry person in love and humility. Fear runs away, anger attacks. Humility and love move toward. In a surprise attack they blindside angry people with weakness. Your timing will be important. Sometimes you can say something while the gun is aimed. Other times you will wait and speak later.
5. The person’s anger could have many reasons – you being one. But murderous anger is always wrong. At some point, from your place of love and humility, you will hold up the mirror and help angry people see themselves (Matthew 7:5).
Posted by Bro. Matt at 2:20 PM
Monday, April 19, 2010
Posted by Bro. Matt at 1:57 PM
“What I’m Learning About WBC’s Urgent, Essential, and Non-Negotiable Need to Pray”
Acts 1:14; Acts 2:42; Acts 3:1; Acts 4:31; Acts 6:4, 6; Acts 8:14-15; Acts 9:40; Acts 10:9; Acts 12:12; Acts 13:3; Acts 14:23; Acts 16:13, 16, 25; Acts 27:29; Acts 28:8
The results of the heavy concentration of praying:
1. Supernatural, Spirit-sent growth by authentic conversions.
Acts 2:47; Acts 4:32ff; Acts 5:14; Acts 6:7; Acts 16:13-14 (Lydia); Acts 16:25ff
2. Supernatural, God-sized missionary endeavors developed.
Acts 11:1-18; Acts 13:1-3
3. Supernatural, Jesus-exalting occurrences advancing the kingdom.
Acts 3:1ff; Acts 12:5ff; Acts 28:7-10
Posted by Bro. Matt at 1:29 PM
Monday, April 12, 2010
Posted by Bro. Matt at 7:37 PM
Posted by Bro. Matt at 7:23 PM
Monday, April 5, 2010
Posted by Bro. Matt at 9:33 AM
1. It was still somewhat dark outside, Mary was in a state of horrified shock, and Jesus was in His glorified body.
2. As ‘the gardener,’ we are brought face to face with the reality that what Jesus has accomplished is a total restoration of what was lost in the Garden of Eden.
Posted by Bro. Matt at 5:24 AM
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Posted by Bro. Matt at 12:11 PM